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A quick update on the on the Dads on the Air interview with Kyle Lovett and Barbara Kay with a few interesting links as well..

The Stats that Matter

With special guests:

• Kyle Lovett
• Barbara Kay

Kyle Lovett
  Kyle Lovett is a Research Editor and Author at A Voice for Men. Kyle is based in Washington DC in the USA but even at that distance he cannot help but be disturbed about the National Council of Australia’s plan supposedly directed at reducing violence against women.
Some of the recommendations of the Plan have already been implemented following the amendments made to the Family Law Act late last year expanding the definition of what legally constitutes “domestic violence”. Others to follow may include formalising new sexual assault laws which will define legally consensual sexual intercourse. Unless a man gets verbal consent to perform various acts following a direct question he could be facing a rape charge. Furthermore consent can be removed after the fact if the woman claims she was coerced under a broad range of vague or implied threats. And it is the man who has the burden of proof if these types of allegations are made by the woman.
Even the title of the Plan causes great concern: Time for Action: The National Council’s Plan for Australia to Reduce Violence against Women and their Children 2009-2021. Note the use of the word “their” when referring to children. What about the Dads? And the Plan does not even address the physical, emotional or sexual abuse of children.
As to the statistics on which this draconian Plan is supposedly based hear Kyle show where the findings have been ignored, twisted and in some cases deliberately misrepresented.
The Plan has to be of major concern to all fair minded men and women who are witnesses to the vanishing civil rights of Australia’s men.
Barbara Kay
Also in our show today as a special feature we are delighted to welcome back Barbara Kay who is a columnist for the National Post newspaper in Montreal Canada.
Barbara has recently posted an article The awkward truth about spousal abuse. In the article Barbara recognises the achievements of feminists in the 1970’s to redress some of the wrongs from 60 years ago. But now in the 21st century the feminists are fighting among themselves about who are the real feminists and the denial of domestic abuse is still with us, only it has shifted from the female victims to the males.
Honest researchers were surprised to find in study after study that intimate partner violence is mostly bidirectional when feminists and governments still act as though the only victims of domestic violence are women. Erin Pizzey who opened the first refuge for battered women in England in 1971 was expelled from the feminist movement because she dared to ask women about their own violence.
With regard to domestic violence men are where women were 60 years ago.
Listen in to hear Barbara’s candid and eloquent analysis of the current situation and what we should be aiming for in our social, judicial and political attitudes towards violence.
Also check out our new feature where we will be inviting guests to choose a song for the program. Kyle and Barbara both picked interesting songs and they tell us why they made their choice. If you enjoy listening to the song One Life you can find out about Jade Michael and the Tennessee band 17 Stories … and more … by going to his website Artistry Against Misandry.

Next week …
Babies and Toddlers need their Fathers
Kingsley Miller, even Toddlers Need Fathers (UK)
Gil Ronen, Coalition for Children and the Family (Israel)

A couple of new events has caught my attention. The first is ofcourse Kyle Lovett's interview on the Dads on the Air radio program. Kyle is a prolific writer, blogger and researcher. I have posted quite a few articles by Kyle over the last couple of months, they have been filled with facts and figures that are not matched by many. His interview on the DOTA radio show is not to be missed. Link in the right hand Bar..

Also on the same Radio program is the lovely and effervescent Barbara Kay, A women I would easily term as being a lady and one who combats the feminist hate program with ease and alacrity. Both these guys are a pleasure to listen to. It does require Itunes as DOTA have archived all their programs on Itunes (They are down-loadable and free), well worth a listen..

If you do not have Itunes, Link Here..

The second item, and one mentioned by Barbara Kay, is the New Men's Journal site, which is an academic site listing academic papers, opinion pieces and articles about Men and Men's Issues which is also a pleasant and welcomed surprise, here are some details..

 

 

Focus and Scope

Articles

Misandry and Emptiness: Masculine Identity in a Toxic Cultural Environment	PDF
Paul Nathanson, Katherine K. Young

Towards an Integrated Perspective on Gender, Masculinity, and Manhood	PDF
John A. Ashfield

The Bold, Independent Woman Of Today and the “Good” Men and Boys in Her Life: A Sampling of Mainstream Media Representations	PDF
Peter Allemano

Moral Panic: Male Studies and the Spectre of Denial	PDF
Robert A. Kenedy

But Are the Kids Really All Right? Egalitarian Rhetoric, Legal Theory and Fathers	PDF
Katherine K. Young, Paul Nathanson

Meeting Men: Male Intimacy and College Men Centers	PDF
Miles Groth

Manliness, Gentlemanliness, and the Manhood Question in George Eliot’s Adam Bede	PDF
Dennis Gouws

Boaz Behaving Badly	PDF
Malina Saval

Verizon have either got employees who do not bother with the web or they have an advertising agency full of male hating feminists who determine what level of malice must be served against half the population next..

I do wonder how many more articles and sites have to lodge their objection before those misandric layabouts will actually take some notice..


Barbara Kay: A new front opens in the hate campaign against men

Here we have an example of cause and effect. Society in general, treat women like children by giving them permission to behave anyway they please and not hold them to account. Rape by females/mothers on male victims would be a prime example on how white knights and women in general, grant women open slather in areas of sexual abuse and then turn around and claim that it's all someone else's fault. We have witnessed one example after another where female pedophiles, child molesters and abusers are given a customary smack on the wrist and told to go home and not to be naughty again. That it the extent of justice our feminised justice system now hold women to account. The simple truth is they don't..

I have no doubt that if you abuse a child, you have a very good chance of producing a future monster and this article explains just how that task is completed.
Step one begins in the home and the main perpetrator is the mother..

The sad fact about all this is that the MRM has been pointing this out for decades and it's fallen on the usual deaf ears that any complaint against women usually does. Just sweep it under the carpet and let's pretend it does not exist..

Not always the 'gentler sex' 

Barbara Kay, National Post · Oct. 12, 2011  

Last Saturday's Post featured an interview with Shannon Moroney, the wife of a supposedly rehabilitated Jason Staples, who in 1988 murdered a woman in a fit of rage and spent 10 years in prison. A month after their marriage, Staples sexually assaulted and kidnapped two women. He's back in prison as a "dangerous offender."
Mentioned, but not elaborated on in the interview was the revelation that Staples had been sexually abused as a child. You're not surprised. By his mother. Now perhaps, you are.
Most rapists were subjected to some form of sexual abuse in childhood. A startling amount is perpetrated by females. Peer-reviewed studies conclude that between 60% to 80% of "rapists, sex offenders and sexually aggressive men" were sexually abused by a female.
And yet it is commonly understood that, except in rare cases, women don't harbour such impulses. As McGill professor of social work Myriam Denov, who did her PhD thesis on female sex offenders, notes, as recently as 1984, a study proclaimed that "pedophilia does not exist at all in women."
It exists in spades. According to a 2004 U.S. Department of Education mass study of university students, 57% of students reporting child sexual abuse cited a male offender, and 42% reported a female offender. Interestingly, 65% of the survivors of female abuse who opened up to a therapist, doctor or other professional were not believed on their first disclosure. Overall, 86% of those who tried to tell anyone at all about their experiences were not believed.
According to a 1996 report from the National Center on Child Abuse and Neglect (NCCAN), about 25% of child sexual abuse is committed by women, but that figure may be low, because survivors are far more conflicted and shamed in admitting abuse by their mothers than by fathers. In one study of 17,337 survivors of childhood sexual abuse, 23% reported a female-only perpetrator and 22% reported both male and female. A U.S. Department of Justice report finds that, in 2008, 95% of all youths reporting sexual misconduct by staff member in state juvenile facilities said their victimization experiences included victimization by female personnel, who made up 42% of the staff.
Public acknowledgement of female sex abuse remains a social taboo. BBC Radio 4 broadcast a film called When Girls Do It, following which a TV show, This Morning, opened its lines to survivors of female sex abuse. The studio was overwhelmed by over 1,000 calls, 90% women, none of whom had ever before disclosed their secrets.
Dr. Paul Fedoroff, a forensic psychiatrist and co-director of the Sexual Behaviors Clinic at the Royal Ottawa Mental Health Centre, says that "there are a lot of women who do sexually abuse children, but they get away with it." Daycare centres, schools and homes make propitious terrain for predators. One study found 8% of female perpetrators were teachers and 23% were babysitters.
There are three types of female sex offenders: those who are predisposed to it and will abuse very young children, exactly like men; those who are "male-accompanied," like Karla Homolka (alive and well, and the mother of three children in Montreal); and the "teacher-lover" type, like the infamous Mary Kay Letourneau, who seduced and, after a stint in prison, married her former student.
While the first two types are universally detested, the third type is problematic, because it is often assumed, even by law enforcement, that older women cannot coerce sex, or that teenage boys are flattered and empowered by an older woman's sexual mentorship. Boys do act out their confusion and anxieties differently than girls do, but that doesn't mean many of them aren't damaged by the relationships, or that the law should be applied to women abusers with any less rigour.
Even mental-health professionals and social service agencies avoid facing up to the phenomenon. I spoke at length with an adult survivor of a mother's sadistic sex abuse. "Nina," not her real name, told me that although she has attempted many times to deal with her past therapeutically, "I have never found any social service agency willing to acknowledge this or speak about it."
Victorian chivalry and 21st-century feminism would seem to make strange bedfellows, but in their equally unrealistic characterization of women as the always "gentler sex," they condemn both male and female victims of femaleperpetrated abuse to silence and second-class social status.
To err is human. Are women fully human? Then stop treating them like saints or permanent moral infants.
bkay@videotron.ca